Inspiration | Lessons Learned

Why Transparency is Important in Writing…and in Life

July 22, 2013

The content I write about is not unique, ground-breaking, or earth-shattering. Most of it is common knowledge just synthesized through my  life lens.

I love to share wisdom I’ve picked up from people I’ve met or interacted with, and it doesn’t always relate to writing. I subscribe to Oprah’s way of sharing: if I love it and I’ve learned from it, I’ll share it with everyone. Here are just a few masters I’ve learned from that you should definitely check out:

Marie Forleo – helps people create a business and life they love. I took her B-school online training and it literally changed my life in so many ways. She is an internationally known speaker, author, and has appeared on Oprah’s Super Soul Sunday along with other spiritual entrepreneurs.

Brian Clark – founder of Copyblogger. I’ve been referring to the content Brian has created since early 2000. He has helped me become a better writer for years, and he doesn’t even know it. I’ve become an Authority Member because I don’t want to miss a single juicy nugget of his wisdom.

Denise Duffield-Thomas – the original lucky bitch. Denise teaches people how to manifest and attract money. I took several of her online classes and money started showing up. Just. Like. That. NO JOKE. She’s also the author of two books, Lucky Bitch, and Get Rich Lucky Bitch.

Melissa Donovan – creator and curator of Writing Forward. She’s also the author of, 101 Creative Writing Exercises, which I have read and use from time to time. She gives GREAT creative writing advice and has earned the coveted 101 Best Websites for Writers Writer’s Digest Award for her blog.

I also share with you what I’ve discovered from my own writing experience, and my 16 years as a copywriter in the corporate world. I want you to learn from my experience so you can move faster in your writing process than I did.

I didn’t start writing my own stuff seriously until I was 35+ years old. And I wish I knew earlier that:

  1. Insecurities will inevitably come up when you write.
  2. All you have to do is just keep writing.
  3. It’s okay to read and admire other writers’ work but you have to find your own voice.
  4. The keys to writing well are: keeping writing, write more, and then edit until you can’t anymore.

 

There’s also a universal truth I’ve come to realize:

No matter what is going on, remain transparent and vulnerable. 

If you’re not transparent, people won’t believe you. Write about the truth as you know it. Do this until it hurts. In fact, if it hurts you know you’re on to something true. Do this even when people call you a liar. And they will because sometimes the truth is so powerful people can’t handle it. But if you stay true to yourself, you’ll connect with the people who need to read your writing. That’s just the way the universe works.

If you’re not vulnerable, no one will care about what you write. As much as people try to avoid certain feelings or emotions, deep down we really do want to feel things. It’s what makes us humans. That movie that made you cry, the book that made you fall in love, or the painting that gave you goose bumps are things you will never forget. You can only do this in your writing when you are down there with your own emotions and feelings pouring them onto the page (or computer screen).

So dear writers my message to you this week is be transparent and vulnerable until your heart bleeds. Let those who can’t handle it go down their own path. You know what’s in your heart. And that’s all that matters.

 

  • Thank you for this, Dana!

    Also – I didn’t really get serious about writing until I was 35 years old too.

    And this is ABSOLUTELY TRUE:

    Insecurities will inevitably come up when you write.
    All you have to do is just keep writing.
    It’s okay to read and admire other writers’ work but you have to find your own voice.
    The keys to writing well are: keeping writing, write more, and then edit until you can’t anymore.

    • Yay Meleah! So glad you’ve been doing lots of writing lately. When you get ready for edits and publishing, let’s talk!