Wellness

No Expectations

September 3, 2015

Do you think you could live your life with no expectations?

Many a spiritual master will tell you it is how you stop suffering. Trying to do it is more difficult than it sounds. We have expectations for everything, everyone, and for every waking moment of our lives. It is so ingrained within us that we don’t even know we do it.

When things or people don’t live up to our expectations, that’s when we suffer. We hold so tight to “the way it should be” that we cause ourselves and those in our lives turmoil. Essentially, we throw tantrums.

I just finished reading the most amazing book, The Untethered Soul by Michael A. Singer, that talks about letting go and just relaxing when things don’t go your way. It sounds trite but it really is that easy. The hard part is identifying these expectations, where they come from, and why you are so attached to them.

Part of what I was doing while I was on blogging hiatus is working on myself. I practiced letting go of expectations. I’m still practicing. I think I will always be practicing. Someday I hope to get to a point where I can do work that fills me with passion and let whatever happens with it happen. Someday I hope to allow the people in my life to be exactly who they are because no matter what I do, I cannot change them.

Letting go of expectations doesn’t mean that you let people walk all over you, or that you let your children run amok. It means that you don’t let things get to you when life doesn’t go your way. In the book, the author says that its pretty audacious of us to think that we can control things outside of ourselves. The universe has been functioning just fine for billions of years before we got here. Kind of puts things in perspective.

I’m going to be blogging about writing, like I always do, but I’m also going to talk about mental wellness and spirituality…NOT religion…but finding peace as a sentient being on this planet. I hope you’ll continue to join me as I explore this area of life! 🙂