Why can’t we all be more like Phoebe Buffay?

January 4, 2017

Lately I’ve been binge-watching old Friends episodes. Man, I miss that show. It was so good, and funny! And while I don’t believe in New Year’s Resolutions, I am going to try to live my life more like Phoebe Buffay.


Because life is so simple for her, and she’s always in the present moment. Yes, she comes across as quirky and even a little dingy but you know what? If I were stranded on a deserted island, I’d want her with me because she’d make it fun and she’d figure out a way to thrive.

Here are a list of things we can all learn about living a simple, happy life from Phoebe Buffay:

Follow Your Passion, No Matter What Other People Say

She isn’t the best musician and her songs are…interesting but she puts her whole heart into it. And she doesn’t care what other people think. Singing brings her joy so she does it for that reason alone. In fact, there was an episode where the owner of Central Perk paid a singer to replace Phoebe because she was so “bad” and she tried to make money singing on the street. She ended up hating it.  The simple fact that she sings for joy brings other people joy, even when she’s not “good.” You don’t have to be the best at what you do, you just have to enjoy it.

Always Be There for the People In Your Life

Not only is Phoebe a loyal friend but she’s also someone who is willing to do whatever you need. Take the time she became a surrogate for her brother and his wife…and she ended up birthing triplets! She is there for the people in her life by taking care of things. No questions asked. That’s how she shows her love. What if we all did that for the people we care about?

Be Brutally Honest When It’s Necessary

Phoebe will tell it like it is. There was one episode where Ross told Phoebe he hadn’t gotten an annulment for his joke marriage to Rachel because he didn’t want to be “that divorce guy” because no one would want to date him after three divorces. Phoebe gave him the truth: that his stigma was all in his head. How can you be brave like Phoebe to voice your opinion and be honest when it’s tough?

Have a Confidence (People Think It’s Sexy)

Phoebe makes choices based on whether it makes her happy. And she definitely doesn’t do things just because other people are doing it. From her jobs to her little hobbies, she definitely thinks outside the box and she’s confident about whatever she does. Her swag level is off the charts. Phoebe knows how to use her charms. We all have areas in our lives where we feel confident. How can you be like Phoebe and bring that confidence out into other parts of your life?

Who was your favorite character on Friends? Or are you like me and agree that it’s Phoebe all the way?

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