3 Ways to Become the Person You Want to Be

Most of us want to be good people. We want to make a difference. We want to contribute. But we often get stuck in our insecurities, our weaknesses, and our self-doubts. Believe me, been there, done that (and still do that)! So, how do we move past all that when it's so hard to become the person we know we could be?

Be Still
As things are starting to reopen in the U.S., the pace of everyday life feels like it's speeding up again. Remember before lockdown how we were all running around trying to get stuff done? Well, I don't know about you but it feels like there's more to do than there was a year ago. That means we've got to be vigilant with our time. 

You've got to be mindful about making time to be still to become the person you want to be. Why? Well, it's in the stillness that you discover what's really important and what's worth your time. This is especially true if you're not sure what to do next...it's not about DOING it's about being. You have to know who you want to be and then start to be it. The doing comes later. 

Listen
Life is always showing us the possibilities and opportunities. The problem is we don't know how to listen so they often go unnoticed. We're constantly thinking or fretting about what happened, what will happen, or what if things don't happen. 

Listening is a skill that can be learned, and luckily the more you practice the better you get at it. Pay attention to the things people in your life say or do. Watch for opportunities that fire you up or for situations where you know you could be good at something or be of service. If you are still and listen, you seem to be at the right place at the right time and that's when the magic happens. 

Take Small Steps (and Keep Going)
We often believe that to get where you want to go, or be who you want to be something in the universe has to shift and the opportunity of a lifetime just falls into our laps. Or, that we have this huge epiphany and suddenly things start to happen. Unfortunately, nope. 

You have to do the unglamorous work and it's a building up of little steps that eventually tips the scales. If you want to become a master artist, you don't sit there staring at your canvas hoping you'll get inspiration. You start creating something. Maybe you throw that away or maybe you keep coming back to it over time. Then you do it again. And again. And again. Over and over. Then one day, you realize you've created a wealth of experience and work. But you don't stop because you have to keep going no matter what is happening around you. "Just keep swimming, just keep swimming..." And like Dory, you'll eventually become who you want to be.